Friendships, social energy, workplace challenges, and emotional labour.
The emotional labour of proving a struggle no one can see. I keep seeing a familiar question — in support groups, forums, and conversations with other ADHDers: “How do I explain my executive dysfunction better… to my partner? To my boss? To my parent?” The situation varies. But the pattern is the same. Someone is…
(A Rewriting Normal Reflection) I read something recently that called out LinkedIn as a platform full of performative empathy. People sharing stories about grief, burnout, or inclusivity, not necessarily because they cared, but because they knew it would look good. At first, I understood the discomfort. I don’t like fakery either. I’ve worked in spaces…
I’m over the way ableism shows up in spaces that call themselves inclusive. I’m over the tone police, the voice snobs, the unspoken rules about what makes you “credible” as if clarity, softness, or support tools mean you’re not serious, smart, or strategic. I’m over leadership advice that punishes emotion while applauding assertiveness – so…
Why I Don’t Say “ADHD Explains, But Doesn’t Excuse” Before I was diagnosed in my late thirties, I didn’t have a framework for what was happening inside me when I lost my cool. I could usually hold it together around people who weren’t family. I’d fume internally, keep the peace, and walk away tense. I…
(Unless you’re amazing or genuinely need to work with me…then okay, maybe.) I don’t like phone calls. That’s the short version.The longer version? Well, let’s just say this post has been a long time coming. Lately, I’ve been trying to organise quotes from a tradesperson — and despite clearly requesting email responses, they kept trying…
A message popped up on my phone the other day from someone I used to work with. Just a few lines, asking whether I’d gone back to work. Whether I’d seen all the HR jobs going in my city. It was friendly. Casual. Well-meaning. It sent me into a bit of a rabbit hole—not distress,…