Are people going to judge me? Will they judge my child?

Probably. And that sucks.

We live in a world that still misunderstands ADHD, especially in children. Especially in parents. Especially in families that don’t fit a certain mold.

You might notice it in sideways glances, unsolicited advice, exclusion from birthday parties, or even from professionals who should know better. Sometimes it’s subtle. Sometimes it stings.

And if you’re wondering whether this is your fault – it isn’t.

Judgment usually says more about the person doing it than the person receiving it. But still, it hurts. It’s exhausting to feel like you’re constantly having to prove that your child is kind, capable, clever, and worthy as they are. Or that you’re a “good enough” parent when things are hard.

Here’s what helps:

• Having a script for how you want to respond (or not respond).
• Knowing that people don’t need to “get it” in order for you to parent the way you know is right.
• Letting yourself grieve the support you thought you’d have.
• Finding even one space where you can drop the mask.

You don’t owe everyone an explanation. Your child doesn’t owe anyone a performance. And while the judgment might not disappear overnight, your confidence in your child’s truth can outgrow it.

This is a community that believes you. That sees the effort, the love, the missed sleep, the growth. You are not alone in this.